Wedding Etiquette – Who Pays For What?

Many ceremonies are held all over the world and weddings are among them. Based on the wedding you would like, affordability and acceptability would determine the roles each would play in who pays for what at the wedding or in other words, what’s the appropriate wedding etiquette.

Roles can differ significantly from culture to culture. For example, what is acceptable in culture “A” may not be acceptable in culture “B”; for example, in India and Africa, a dowery must be paid. In India, the bride is expected to pay the dowry to the groom’s parents while in most African countries, the groom is expected to pay the dowry the bride’s parents. Then there are cultures that expect no payment of dowery at all. However, someone needs to pay for the expenses of the wedding.

Below is a list of financial responsibilities as well as the key stakeholders when preparing for a wedding of some of the key stakeholders in any wedding. Remember, your financial situation and/or family culture could require otherwise; however, the guideline is listed to assist those that do not know where to start and are in of some ideas.

The bride and the bride’s family:

• The groom’s wedding ring

• Gifts for the bridesmaids

• Bridesmaid bouquets

• Reception flowers

• Invitation / Announcements

• Napkins or other printed items

• Wedding programs

• Altar baskets or carpet

• Rented items for reception and wedding

• Musician/pianist or soloist/orchestra/band

• Reception hall fee including professional services offered at the hall

• The photographer and video recording

• Wedding cake and wedding favors

• Bridesmaid luncheon

• Bridal brunch

• Wedding breakfast

• Accommodation for guests coming from afar

• Formal wear for the bride’s father

• Church or hall decorations

• The bride’s wedding dress

The groom and the groom’s family:

• The clergyman-pastor /priest

• Bride’s wedding ring

• Gifts for groomsmen, best man, and ushers

• Marriage license

• Ties, gloves and other accessories

• Bride’s bouquet

• Corsages for the groom’s mother, the bride’s mother

• Wedding gift for the bride

• Gifts for the groomsmen

• The rehearsal dinner

• Formal wear for the groom’s father

• Limousine or any other vehicle they might choose to use

• Honeymoon

• Bridal flowers

It is expected that those who are attending the wedding should be able to buy their clothes and those of their children. They should also pay for their travel expenses and gifts for the bride and the bridegroom. If everyone plays their part well, the wedding should go smoothly and can be one of the most memorable events in a person’s life.

Add Your Comment